HOBBY VS CAREER

The past few years of my life, I’ve been trying to find what I’m passionate about. I’ve struggled to find what makes me happy, what takes my stress away after a long day. I know that there are some things that I enjoy to do, but it’s nothing that I would want to turn into a career.

When I was seventeen years old and had just been accepted to Washington State University, my dad asked me what I was thinking of majoring in. I knew I wanted to be a teacher, but I always had the dream of playing the piano professionally. My dad suggested working towards a major (or minor) in classical music or piano. It sounded like a great idea at the time, and I thought that was what I would do. After about a week of thinking about it, I realized that it just wouldn’t work for me. Playing the piano is a hobby of mine, it’s something I love to do for me. I love it so much, that I only play for myself. I couldn’t bring together what I do for school, and what I do for fun. I needed to keep those separate so I could still enjoy playing the piano. 

I wonder now if my life is still the same. Even though I enjoy doing something, would the enjoyment be taken away if I made it more of a career than a hobby? 

I love baking, but more so just for fun for my family and friends. Sometimes I think about possibly opening a bakery, but I’m not a professional. I love baking for my fiancé, especially when she requests something I’ve never tried to make before. What if I make a career out of baking and end up hating it? 

Photography has been something that I’ve come to enjoy the past couple years of traveling. I love getting to take pictures of my family, the sunsets, and the beautiful cities I get to visit. I have a great camera, it works for me, and my knowledge is very basic when it comes to lighting and editing. I could take some photography classes, maybe become a professional, and open up my own studio one day. I could enjoy that. Right now, I take pictures for me. For my family, for my friends, just to capture the moment and the beauty. Would I still feel passionately about it if it was my job? If I was taking pictures of a stranger or the same city every day? 

Now what else do I enjoy doing? What else could I possibly see myself doing one day? What do I do now? Well.. I write? It’s not quite stories, but I’ve written short stories before. I don’t have the English major, to be honest I only took one English class in college. I’m a decent speller, and I’m proficient when it comes to grammar. (See, I used proficient!) Could I sit down and write a book? Would I want to be an author? Or maybe I should stick with the blog, and just write on here? I just bought a writing book that I am going to try out, it gives you topics of a story to create and just one page to do it. My other passion, is reading. I love to read. My bookcases are full of books that I’ve read, and I have no problem rereading. When I shop at thrift stores, I head straight for the discounted books. How do I cheer myself up on a rainy day? I go to the bookstore. Once again though, I don’t have a college degree (yet!). I wouldn’t know how to be an editor or a publisher, I wouldn’t even know how to get into that type of career. My question still comes to mind, would I want to mix my passion with a career? 

Who knows what I’ll end up doing with my career. Part of me still wants to be a teacher, part of me wants to try something new- something that will allow me to be home with my family, work at my pace, and to do what I love. Making money won’t hurt either! How did you decide what you were going to do for a career? Do you feel like you made the right decision, or do you have any regrets? Let me know in the comments! 

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IT’S BEEN AWHILE

It’s been awhile since I’ve posted, and I know I have some explaining to do. I wish there was just one simple answer, but there isn’t. I’ve been so busy, overwhelmed, and just plain stressed out the past few weeks, that I just haven’t had any time to write. Not to mention, I haven’t really known WHAT to write about lately. I’ve been considering shutting down Stuck on Kitchen Floor, just because I’m at a point where I don’t really know what to say, I don’t know what to do with this blog anymore. But I feel like that would be quitting on something therapeutic that has helped me through the past couple years. I’d be embarrassed if I quit now. 

When I first started this blog, I wanted this to be a place where I could share my daily struggles, my thoughts, and find people going through similar struggles in life. It’s been two years, and the only people that read my posts are a couple family members and a few friends. (I am INCREDIBLY honored and thankful to you reading this now!!!!) But I wanted this to be more.. public. To be able to be shared and reach people all across the world. Now I don’t want to be famous, I don’t want to make money off on my blog, I would just like to create a place where I can share my thoughts, my travels, and my life story as I’m creating it. 

It might take me awhile, so I’m asking you to be patient. I’m trying to figure out what my goals are with Stuck on The Kitchen Floor, and how to make it happen. So many parts of my life are changing, and this part is changing as well. I hope when I’m finished, when I am satisfied with the way this blog is coming together, that you are still reading this. 

See you soon! 

HOLIDAY MADNESS

With the holidays quickly approaching (how did Christmas sneak up on me this year?!) I’ve been so stressed with working, planning vacations, shopping for presents, and spending time with my loved ones. I’ll be doing the best I can to keep up with my three posts each week, but I can’t make any promises. I hope you all are enjoying the holidays with your family and friends, travel safe, and can’t wait to share my holiday adventures with you all! 

STRESSFUL HOLIDAYS?

Okay, is anyone stressing this holiday season?! 

It’s just coming up way too quick. I feel like just last week it was Valentine’s Day, and now here we are- full on Christmas spirit. Where did the year go? But I can’t seem to find my Christmas spirit just yet. It must be buried underneath the holiday stress that creeped up out of nowhere. 

I miss those days where the biggest stress was passing Biology and getting those new jeans you’ve been BEGGING for for Christmas. I’d do anything to have that stress again. Now it’s the stress of working enough so you can pay all your bills but not working too much so you can actually see your family for the holidays, trying not to gain the dreaded holiday weight, buying Christmas presents for all the members of your family, having the days off for family/friends vacations and holiday parties, and not to mention find the time to put up your favorite winter decorations. Oh, and did I forget sleep? What is sleep nowadays? I couldn’t tell you the last time I didn’t have to set an alarm to get up insanely early. 

Is anyone else having a hard time with this holiday season? What are your tips and tricks to just stop and enjoy the moment without stressing about your to-do list? I just want to enjoy the holidays with my loved ones. 

ANNOUNCEMENT!

If you follow me on Facebook, Instagram, or Snapchat then you already know what my big announcement is. If you don’t… well you better sit down because this one’s a big one! 

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I am engaged!!!!! After two years of amazing times, traveling across the United States, difficult trials, and making long-distance work, my amazing wonderful girlfriend proposed. And of course I said YES! We are both just so excited for our future and to spend the rest of our lives together. We are so incredibly thankful to have our families and friends supporting us, I don’t think either one of us have ever felt so loved. 

Keep checking back for the proposal story, and more posts about our plans for the wedding! 

 

VETERAN’S DAY

Take the time to thank a veteran today. As civilians, we don’t quite realize the everyday sacrifices they have made to keep us safe. They move their families to different parts of the world for long periods of time, they will always look over their shoulders when walking down the street, they know things that the government will not share with the public, and they are willing to make the ultimate sacrifice to protect those that will never thank them or appreciate what they have done. Every position in the military plays a crucial role in keeping us safe. From the nurses, to the mechanics, to the military police, to the grocer on base, to the front lines- they are all keeping us safe. They have all put themselves in harm’s way to help protect the United States. Regardless of where you stand with politics, you wouldn’t be able to have an opinion without our veterans. So if you know a veteran, see a veteran walking down the street, or even have one as a friend on Facebook, please thank them. They deserve to be thanked every single day, but please make sure to express your gratitude today. 

Thank you to every single veteran. Thank you to their families for standing by them, supporting them, loving them, and sacrificing their time with them. Without them, I would not be able to sleep peacefully each night. I’m so thankful to have our veterans and our military keeping us safe. Thank you. 

“HEY PRETTY GIRL”

The other day after I paid for gas and was walking out to my car, this is what I hear: 

“Hey pretty girl.” 

There I was, minding my own business, and some guy felt the need to step into my personal bubble, lean down into my face, and say those words. 

“Hey pretty girl.”

Where should I start with this one? Hmm, let’s start off with the fact that I am a woman. A young woman, but a woman nonetheless. I have a full-time job, a 401k, I pay my taxes, and I open doors for myself. I don’t ask my parents if I can go to the movies with my friends, I don’t ask for an allowance, and I certainly don’t wear training bras. I’m not a girl. Do I still eat Lunchables sometimes? Yes. But that’s because I choose what I eat, not because that’s what my parents packed in my lunch. I am a woman. Please do not call me a girl, especially if you’re trying to get my attention in anyway. 

“Hey pretty girl.” 

Do you really think the gas station is the place to hit on someone? Gas stations are not a destination, they’re not glamorous, and people don’t spend more than 5 minutes of their time there. It’s a get in, do what you need to do, and get out type of place. Let me just say this: there is nothing romantic about a gas station. So let’s not try to make it one. 

“Hey pretty girl.”

If you want to get a woman’s attention, let’s change up the lines a little bit. Ask how her day is going, open up the door for her, offer to pump her gas if you must say something at the gas station. Talk with her about politics, the latest news, ask her if she’s seen the latest movie! But don’t expect her to continue a conversation after “Hey pretty girl”. You’re the one that noticed her, that reached out to her, you have to actually start off the conversation. Hey pretty girl is just the same as hi. Switch it up, stimulate her mind, don’t just compliment her face. 

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I will always accept a genuine compliment. When someone stops you on the street to tell you they love your shoes, or your perfume, that takes guts! It’s not an everyday occurance that someone works up the courage to go out of their way and compliment you on something personal. Have you ever given a stranger a compliment and just watched the way their face lights up? It’s a wonderful feeling. But knowing that it was a completely innocent compliment, they don’t want anything in return, that’s what makes it special. Compliments are dimmed when they’re used to get something, to further themselves into a line of position. Especially when you’re hitting on someone. Don’t just use a generic “compliment”, actually say how you feel. Try “Wow, I think you are stunning. I hope you have a great day.” instead. You might be surprised with the reaction. 

Let’s try to stay away from the short, shallow compliments. 

“Hey pretty girl.”

A SURPRISE IS COMING

I have a very exciting surprise coming up! I’ve been waiting to share it with everyone just because I’ve been trying to enjoy the moment to myself first. It’s something big, something completely life changing, and I’ll be honest: I AM NOT GOOD WITH CHANGE. Not at all. Not for a single second. It can be the smallest thing, like a new phone case or a big thing like a new car. But this change. This is a good one. Such a good one, and I am so truly excited. So here’s my little teaser that something amazing, something wonderful, something life changing is happening. And I can’t wait to share it with you all. Keep up to find out what it is! (And if you have Instagram, you’ll probable find out first. So follow me @babyvbaby)

SOMETIMES YOU JUST NEED A FRIEND

I need to take a moment and just appreciate someone special to me. A couple of weeks ago, my friend was concerned with how I was doing, and she reached out to me. It’s rare nowadays to have someone actually reach out and express their concerns and feelings. It SHOULD be happening all the time, but it just doesn’t. And it made me appreciate her so much because sometimes I feel like people don’t see how I’m really doing because I try to hide it. Not only did she reach out, she invited me out for brunch and to just hang out. As an adult, it’s really hard to make friends. Even harder to make true, wonderful, loyal friends who actually care about you and your wellbeing. I have to say, that was probably one of the best friend times I have ever had. It was so nice to just sit down with a friend, get to know each other better, and to have deep conversations. I’m so tired of having the typical surface level conversations with people over and over again like, “How was work?,” “How’s your girlfriend/boyfriend?”. I’m sick of those questions. That morning was honestly so amazing and opened my eyes to how I can be a better friend too. It’s not always about going out and making memories, but sometimes it’s just about getting to know the person next to you. Finding out about their family, their fears, their goals in life . Those conversations just don’t happen anymore. And they need to. She’s inspired me so much, and I don’t think she realizes just how much I appreciate her. So Jess, if you’re reading this THANK YOU FOR BEING AN AMAZING FRIEND AND A WONDERFUL WOMAN! Can we please have brunch again soon? Love you to the moon! 

I am challenging everyone who reads this, to reach out to one of your friends whether it’s someone you see everyday, someone you’re just friends with on Facebook, or even someone who just works with you. Reach out to them, don’t be afraid to invite them for dinner, or a drink, or a movie, or even a walk to Starbucks. Do it. Because you just don’t know what’s going on underneath the surface. I promise it’ll be well worth it. 

 

REWORKING STUCK ON THE KITCHEN FLOOR

I’ve come to the point where I’ve started to evaluate Stuck on the Kitchen Floor and my goals for this blog. When I first started, I just wanted to share my experiences, reach out to other people going through similar situations, giving inspiration and positivity, and provide a place for people to feel comfortable discussing their struggles with depression and finding their place in life. But over time I’ve started sharing more about my travel as well as my latest experiences. 

It’s definitely not easy having a blog, especially when it comes to gaining exposure and creating content. My schedule is chaotic, and just going to become more chaotic as time goes on. I’ve started to schedule my posts about two weeks in advance so that way if I’m too busy one week, I don’t have to worry about not having any posts up. My current schedule has me posting on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays but I’m starting to wonder if that works for my readers (all 29 of you!). I’ve been thinking about changing my posts from Friday to Saturday, just because I know how busy it is throughout the week and it’ll also allow me more time to create better material. 

I just want my blog to be a place where I can share how I feeling, what I’d like to do with my life, and how I’m finding myself through my travels and experiences. I love that I have amazing family and friends that read my blog each week, and it truly blows my mind when someone tells me they actually read my posts. (Not to mention, I get INCREDIBLY shy about it!)

If you have any suggestions of what you’d like to see more of, less of, when you’d like me to post, let me know! I’m always up for suggestions and constructive criticism.