How does anyone know if or even when they’re ready for commitment? Is it when they know they love someone? Or when they can’t imagine their life without that person? Is it when they would do anything to make them smile? What is the turning point from dating to commitment?
I’ll be completely honest (as always!) and admit that I’m not very experienced when it comes to relationships. I dated my best friend in high school for about two years, and it’s almost embarrassing to admit that that was my longest relationship. After that relationship ended, I dated but there wasn’t anyone serious until my most recent ex. I’ve been in love twice, and had my heart broken twice. Both times I truly thought I had found the person I was supposed to spend the rest of my life with, but both times I was wrong.
After this last break up, which was about a year ago, I had to stop and re-evalute my life I had to figure out if I wanted a relationship and what I wanted from one if I did. I’ve come to the conclusion that if I ever get into a relationship again, it’s going to be with someone truly worth the risk of getting hurt. I want to feel comfortable, respected, loved, and appreciated when I commit to someone. It’s taken awhile for me to get back to the point where I know my worth, and I’m going to make sure that the person I’m with realizes my worth as well.
I’m new to this world of adult dating and relationships. Sometimes I still feel like a girl in high school just waiting for the cute kid to ask me to prom. (Which didn’t happen by the way – still totally believe my mother’s theory of being too “intimidating”. Kidding, moms have to say stuff like that.) How are relationships suppose to work? What steps are there to take? When should someone meet the family? How long do you try to make it work with someone until you admit that maybe they’re not the right person for you? When is too soon to tell them you’re falling in love? Do you commit to someone when you become exclusive, officially in a relationship, engaged, married?
There’s just so many questions, and I want to make sure I get it right. I know there isn’t the perfect answer that works for everyone, so I have to create my own answers. I guess it just depends on the person you’re with and that communication can truly make or break a relationship. Be honest with the person you’re interested in, don’t ever be afraid to express your feelings, don’t overthink but don’t forget to think, and trust your gut. If it’s right, it’ll work.