When you get married, there’s always the talk about the vow “for better or for worse”. But no one ever mentions that an individual changes for better or for worse when a relationship ends. When two people separate, both of them change. The way they perceive love, the way they see themselves and what they are worth. Everything changes. Sometimes for better, and sometimes for worse.
For better. Someone could realize that they deserve better, that they shouldn’t settle for mediocre. They see what they need to work on, to be a better partner and they do become a better partner for the person that they are truly supposed to be with.
For worse. They shut down, they lose their self worth and self confidence. They become so accustomed to the pain of being broken hearted, that they give up trying to find love. They lose themselves.
As embarrassing as it is to say, I’ve lost myself. I’ve gone numb. I’ve been hurt one too many times, and I’m simply destroyed. There’s nothing left.
For better or for worse.